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Food For The Soul

Why Women Stay in Unhappy Relationships

12/26/2015

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Healing and Empowerment Series

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Part 3:
Lack of knowledge:
My mother used to say that lack of knowledge is the mother of all inability. I never understood what she meant until I became an adult and a little wiser. Also wondered what Jesus meant by the words “you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”. We are all born with internal knowledge i.e truth; however, we need to learn to use that knowledge. So we go to school and get an education. This kind of education is standard and works as a foundational template on which all our systems function and we all operate .However, there is a deeper, more advanced education of a spiritual nature that is required for one to understand the modalities of life .This knowledge is not taught in schools but it resides within each of us. It requires special methods of accessing it and sometimes these methods are as simple as having a conversation, listening to someone talk, praying, meditating etc. Without that knowledge, also known as wisdom, one can have degrees in standard education but remain ignorant of what life is all about.

 Hence, navigating life can be a big challenge, and relationships can be like a big iceberg on the path to happiness. If someone does not know what makes a good relationship for them, how can that person choose that relationship? Many women stay in unhappy relationships simply because they do not know what else is out there, what are the options etc.What some women consider to be what they want out of a relationship is usually copied from others or dictated by society and different kinds of media and can end up being the very thing that builds prison walls around them. Some will think having a wealthy partner is the thing, or a handsome man or an educated man from a prominent family…so and so’s son etc. Usually this is so distorted and that preferred partner lacks all the other qualities that contribute to a happy relationship. A wealthy partner could be a womanizer, bully or cheat, liar or abuser, but because there is wealth involved the woman sticks it out in the hope of enjoying the wealth. However, as one African saying states “ Unotodya mari yacho nemuseredzero”, literally translated to ‘you need to have a glass of water next to you while partaking as you may get choked”. What is your standard for a happy relationship?

Knowledge begins with knowing who you are first before you can apply it to other things around you. What is it that makes you tick, what are your needs and wants etc? Do you know why you were created? What is your purpose and are you living it? Are you living life consciously or subconsciously, being driven by unknown forces, fears and pressures? At the Women’s Healing and Empowerment Centre we teach a Conscious Living and Self Discovery course which helps women to engage in conscious relationships and connect with their purpose ,which brings real happiness. It is not that complicated to be happy but we make it to be what it is not, as we put such a high price on it that many people cannot afford.

Get a glass of water and drink to this one and let’s talk about children…next!

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Dr.Madlena Kantscheff
12/24/2015 10:22:05 am

great article, so needed reminder not just for women in Africa, but all over the world.We all live in a time of human history when we are asked to be true to ourselves...men and women.And yes it starts with self discovery and living our lives in a highly conscoius way.

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Mosline link
12/24/2015 12:12:16 pm

True my dear sister- thank you for the reflection.

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    Mosline Farawu is a writer of spiritual and intellectual articles with a bias toward women's issues. She lives in Zimbabwe, Africa and is a mother, wife and career woman. She aspires to become a successful coach and counsellor to other women.

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