On the 24th January 2011, after a lot of pushing from my daughter, I summoned the courage to phone her former school. The reason for all this anxiety was that, in November 2010 my daughter sat for Cambridge IGCSE A-Level exams and the results were due to be released by the 24th . So, I had to call the school to get the results, which I did, and to our amazement she had done extremely well. She actually exceeded our expectations or as some say in colloquial language “she aced the exams”. She came out with a total of 14 points out of a possible of 15 and so this was something to celebrate. But this is when I learnt a couple of lessons from my fellow human beings:
1. People rejoice when you share problems and calamities but not positive news
2. Some will think you are bragging about something you should not brag about
3. Others will accuse you of showing off
4. Yet still others will label you insensitive....
I could go on and on because at the time when I was consumed by this spirit of joy, I was oblivious that my actions were being interpreted and I was being judged. As I announced to my work colleagues what I thought was good news, little did I know that my actions were being misconstrued. Some even went behind my back castigating me for being insensitive and now I know that news is only good to the one who is experiencing it. To the rest, it can be annoying.
Anyway, despite the criticism for celebrating where I needed to celebrate, I shall continue to rejoice. This is just a lesson in life but not something that I can allow to ruin my life or control when to celebrate and when not to.
As I have posted in my New Year blog, this year of 2011 is promising fireworks!!
Mosline Farawu is a writer of spiritual and intellectual articles that interrogate and shed light on women's issues . She lives in Zimbabwe, Africa and is a mother, life coach and entrepreneur.